What Is Spirituality (Really)?

I’ve never really liked the word spirituality.

It always sounded a little too floaty — like something people say between yoga class and ordering a turmeric latte.“I’m spiritual, not religious,” they’d declare, usually with the same tone you use when you’ve just discovered a new superfood.

The word felt overused, polished, and packaged. But what I’ve learned is that at its core spirituality isn’t something you wear. It’s not about how many crystals you own, or how many breathwork sessions you’ve done this month.

It’s something far more radical: Spirituality is the art of unlearning.

Unlearning Who You Think You Are

The real work isn’t about becoming someone better. It’s about realizing you never had to become anyone in the first place.

Most of us spend our lives wearing masks — some handed to us, some borrowed, and some we don’t even realize we’re wearing.Your name, your opinions, your affiliations, your fears, your social feed — it’s all a patchwork of identities stitched together by repetition and expectation.

And beneath all of that, there’s something quieter. A small pulse. A whisper that says, This isn’t quite it. Can you hear it?

The Noise of the Modern World

The modern world doesn’t make it easy to hear that whisper. Every day, we’re fed other people’s lives, curated down to the dopamine.

Endless scrolls of beauty, hustle, aesthetic minimalism, bold maximalism, tiny homes, big followings, louder voices.

Even your self-discovery can be packaged now, like a subscription box for enlightenment.

But that’s the trick: Spirituality isn’t found in anything that can be bought, followed, or taught.

It’s not a path you walk forward on. It’s a step backward, into the awareness that you were already home.

Better Questions, Not Better Versions

You want answers? That’s a good start. But spirituality begins with asking better questions.

• Who is it that’s asking the question?

• What part of me wants to be “better”?

• What would it feel like to stop fixing myself?

• Can I sit with my own silence longer than I sit with my own reflection?

Coming Home

Real spirituality doesn’t hand you answers. It dissolves the need for them.

It’s the process of seeing how many layers of “you” were never really you at all.

It’s about watching your thoughts instead of believing them.

It’s not about “raising your vibration” like some mystical upgrade.

It’s about remembering: you were never separate from the universe in the first place.

You are not in the universe.

You are the universe, briefly dreaming of a person.

So, what is spirituality?

It’s the moment you stop chasing meaning, and realize you are meaning.